In memoriam donations

It is possible to have donations to your chosen charity instead of having flowers.

  • If you have asked for donations in lieu of flowers we are happy to collect them on your behalf.
  • We make a list of all who have donated.
  • We finalise the donation account after about a month and contact you.
  • We forward the donations to your chosen charity and a list of those who have donated to you.
  • For discretion we do not list every individual donation amount, just the donors and the grand total collected.

We can receive donations on the day of the funeral but are not able to give a receipt, so would prefer to receive them in the office on Eachelhurst Road, Walmley, Sutton Coldfield.

Donations should be clearly labelled.


Exhumation

Sometimes, it is necessary to exhume a buried coffin (or indeed a coffin which is in the crematorium building which is yet to be cremated).

This may be immediately – for example, if the coffin has been sealed and the family wishes to have an item out of the coffin but the act of committal has already taken place – or 50 years or more later. It can be for a number of reasons, and not always at the request of the family.

We are able to provide a full exhumation service including liaising with all third parties including the cemetery and Environmental Health department. We provide a full professional service  from the initial enquiry until the coffin is laid to rest for the second time, and beyond.We also arrange for the completion of all paperwork including Coroner’s Warrant, Department of Constitutional Affairs (DCA, formerly the Home Office) Licence or an Ecclesiastical Faculty.

For more information, please contact us at our Sutton Coldfield Funeral Home.


International Repatriation – taking someone home

In today’s world, it is quite common for people to pass away not only away from home, but not even in the same continent. This requires ‘repatriation’. We can provide a repatriation service to any part of the world.  Each country and airline has their own regulations so full advice, guidance and price can only be given upon application.

As a general rule, you will need to know of a funeral director in the home country who will receive the coffin and make arrangements for the funeral, once the coffin has arrived.

It is possible to have a funeral locally prior to leaving for the airport. You may also wish to travel on the same aeroplane, once we know the details.

Through consultation we are able to provide a bespoke service to you and your family. We may need to bring third parties in to the arrangements, particularly where a translation of documents is needed.

If you are wishing to repatriate your loved one (in Birmingham it is quite common to repatriate to areas of Eire, for example) then try to remember to tell the Registrar when you attend to register the death.

Our services are provided as per our funerals carried out locally in areas around Sutton Coldfield and Erdington. We will arrange for any specialist coffin required, and if you wish to visit your loved one in the chapel of rest at our funeral home in Eachelhurst Road, Walmley, prior to the repatriation, then you are welcome.

This service is often not as expensive or as complicated as people first think. The only additional costs generally come from the transport costs by the airline, and the fact that two Funeral Directors have to be involved (one in each country).


Helping bereaved adolescents

Children’s grief will often take them on an emotional roller-coaster but everyone’s bereavement journey will be unique. Grief is normal and necessary and should not be bottled up or covered up, and it is not something you can get over like an illness.  Society tends to think that children should either be “completely protected” or that they are resilient and will “bounce back” without any support.  In our experience, bereaved children experience the bewildering pain of grief, but with support of those who love them they heal.

It is important too that you and other members of the family also have permission to grieve and that you can help each other through this awful experience. Children look to the adults around them to see how to behave when something happens, and this is no different when someone has died. It is not going to damage the children if they see you cry in front of them or with them. It is helpful if you can explain your feelings, “I was just having a little cry because I miss her and sometimes it is hard”.  Saying things out loud helps children to understand their world.  Children are very sensitive to their surroundings and they pick up on feelings and atmosphere within the family. They are likely to worry or blame themselves and may think they shouldn’t talk about the person who has died or show their feelings.  It will help their grieving if they see you are grieving too.

Within families, every member is different and so will grieve differently and unconsciously try to balance each other out – so if one is sad, another might support them by trying to cheer them up. It is done with the best of intentions, but it can stop people from being open about their grief through fear of upsetting the others. Not talking about it doesn’t stop the child from being affected.

When you do talk it is important not to have any expectations. Talk in language that is easy for them to understand but try and stay clear of euphemisms. It is important to be honest, but sensitive. They will value the trust you are placing in them by being honest, which will keep the lines of communication open in future.  They might only listen to begin with, or only take in chunks of information and have to go over the same ground at a later date. The important thing is that they feel able to talk.

The dynamics of the family have also changed and it is not unheard of for a child to try and assume the role that the person who has died – for instance feel duty bound to take on the “adult” role – and it is important that the adults in the family allow them to act their age.

The first year is very significant for everyone.  Children develop at different rates at the best of times and so it is hard to pinpoint exactly how much they understand about what has happened. By early teens, however it is closer to the adult understanding.

At this age children are much more aware of the finality of death and the impact it has on them.  They can understand death as both concrete and abstract. They may experience difficulties in interaction with their peers, and the death can make them feel different at a time they want to be like everybody else. It is important to find ways to build their self esteem. Children of this age are starting to think of the longer term impact of the loss.  They start to think of the important events and milestones that the person will not be part of. At this age they are starting to move away from dependence on the family and this can destabilise them.  Emotional releases and mood swings are common and they will appreciate knowing that their feelings are normal.

Friends and peers are particularly important to them, as they begin to develop their own ideas as to who they are. They want to be accepted, their bodies are changing and they are more aware of their future. It is quite common for risk taking behaviour to increase in adolescents.  They might start to ponder the “meaning of life” or they may be so busy doing different activities they don’t stop to reflect. This can be a way of keeping their intense feelings under wraps if they are worried about emotional outbursts.  Teenagers may withdraw significantly but don’t push them, just remain there for them.

Of course, the school also provides a valuable resource. The routine is useful for all ages of child and they like the continuity and things that remain “normal”.We are always happy to help schools with extra support if they need it.

Anniversaries, birthdays and other special days can be particularly hard on the whole family. Some do not feel they can celebrate. It helps to try and plan these days. Prepare for it to be a challenge though. Put aside a special time of day to remember the person, to light a candle or to make something for the memory box or scrapbook. Some families choose to do this in the lead up to a big event rather than on the actual day. Children find this very hard as they naturally look forward to events like Christmas.

Activities that may help

  • Telling the story of what happened or how they are feeling by writing, drawing pictures, making a cartoon strip or writing poetry.  The key here is that they can express themselves, but the finished article can be put away, by them, when they are ready to do so.
  • Creating a memory box
  • Planting some seeds – maybe writing a special message  and placing it in the soil under the seeds as a permanent reminder.
  • Winston’s Wish website has a graffiti wall and a sky scape which can help
  • Creating a family tree

It is important to let them know that it is okay to experience the wide range of emotions – including being happy and enjoying life.


Green funeral pre-paid plans

As with our ‘at need’ funerals, with our pre-paid plans we like to start with a blank page. Then together we talk and we help you to find the best way for you you to say goodbye. Such an important rite of passage should be personal, and we are here to guide and support you.

A pre-paid plan (and indeed, our “Personal Wishes” pre-arrangement plans) lifts the burden of making funeral arrangements, to truly reflect the life lived,  at the time of  great emotion, from the family.  Our Funeral Plans, like our funerals, offer a unique, bespoke service which is truly personal to the family in question.

For some people the choice of coffin is important.  TV has highlighted the beauty of a woven bamboo or wicker coffin through a serious of high profile funerals in recent years. Or maybe a simple cardboard coffin is what you would prefer – which could be decorated by your friends and family.

For others it is the woodland burial which is most significant.  With grave space in traditional cemeteries being at a premium and in limited supply, it can be seen as the most sensible option.  Being at one with nature and in beautiful surroundings, it still gives family the opportunity to “visit” once in a while but removes the duty of maintaining a traditional grave and memorial.

Occasionally, families want to be very ‘hands-on’ and may wish to transport the coffin to the funeral in their own vehicle or assist with carrying and lowering the coffin. Others might want no funeral or mourning dress. Others might want a combination.

The important thing to us is that you get the funeral you want. For more information on our bespoke pre-paid Funeral Plans or Personal Wishes pre-arrangement plans, then please contact us.

At Daniel Ross Funerals, Walmley, we pride ourselves on providing a memorable, distinguished funeral which doesn’t have to be based on expenditure. Often it is the attention to the smallest details that truly personalise.  When it comes to environmentally friendly funerals, we are proud to be members of the Association of Green Funeral Directors (AGFD) and to be on the Natural Death Centre’s list of Funeral Directors (the only one in Sutton Coldfield).


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Football funerals and coffins for footy fans

At Daniel Ross Funerals in Sutton Coldfield, we are honoured to be able to offer personalised football funerals so that families are able to give their loved one a truly befitting tribute and a funeral to remember.

Popular football funerals include football themed coffins decorated in Premier League club colours or bearing club crests, floral tributes, decorating the funeral vehicles and making a final journey to the football ground prior to the funeral.

Daniel Ross Funerals always ensure that any permission regarding copyright images are obtained from the individual football club. We have previously supplied coffins and themed football funerals for the fans of Birmingham City, Aston Villa, Manchester United and Liverpool FC.

At our funeral home in Walmley, Sutton Coldfield, we have more information and ideas to create the perfect send off and football funeral for your loved one.

Please contact us for further details


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Jazz Band for a funeral service

A funeral should be as individual and unique as the person who has died and there are families who choose the funeral to be a celebration of the life that has been lived and wish to portray often an outgoing and colourful character or maybe, a real music lover with a jazz band for a funeral service.

Daniel Ross Funerals are proud to work alongside a traditional four piece jazz quartet (comprising of Trumpet, Trombone, Banjo and French Horn) who are able to play a medley of traditional jazz music such as “When the Saints go marching in…..”  and  “Down by the Riverside…..”  (to name but a couple) as the funeral cortege arrives and leaves the home address and on arrival at the Crematorium or Cemetery.

In addition, the quartet are only to happy to meet any specific or unusual requirements.

For further information and pricing on a jazz band for a funeral service, please do not hesitate to contact us.

 


Environmentally friendly funerals

Environmentally friendly funerals

 

Environmentally friendly funerals are otherwise known as “Green Funerals”.  We are the Only Green Funeral Directors in Sutton Coldfield, Tamworth and Lichfield.

Some families are concerned that a funeral may not be environmentally friendly and may opt for an alternative.

To be classified as ‘green’ a funeral needs to have at least 3 of the following:

  1. Eco friendly coffin made with natural and biodegradable materials.
  2. Burial in a Natural Burial Ground or on the family’s own land.
  3. Limousines and cars kept to a minimum.
  4. No embalming.
  5. No ‘cremfilm’ or plastic lining in the coffin.
  6. Journey kept to a minimum.
  7. Flowers used all bought within 10 mile radius of FD.
  8. A tree plant or other plant(s) instead of headstone.
Of course we can help with any of these things, or if perhaps you just want to “do your bit” for the environment and, for example, choose from one of our many Eco-coffins including bamboo, sea-grass, willow, water hyacinth, banana leaf, wool and cotton, then we are glad to work with you.
We are members of the Association of Green Funeral Directors and the only funeral home in Sutton Coldfield (and one of only two in the West Midlands) to be recommended by the Natural Death Centre.
For more information on environmental issues and woodlands burials please contact us.  We also provide the option of green funerals within our funeral pre-payment plans.
 

“We are all extremely happy with the way dad’s funeral went. It was an utterly appropriate way to mark the end of his life. And its hard to imagine how it would have worked out without Sarah and Danny’s help. Your enthusiasm and flexibility in accommodating our plans was really appreciated. I personally was particularly glad of your support on the day, where I thought Danny did a superb job of keeping us organised in a completely unobtrusive manner.”


Children and baby funerals

Losing a child is the most painful experience any of us can face. It is difficult to make the decisions and choices whilst feeling so vulnerable, so over the days we help you to give careful consideration to the choices available along with the support and advice you would expect from experienced professionals to plan the funeral so that it reflects their personality and their time in the world, however short, and gives a degree of comfort to the family at such a distressing time. We will work with you to capture their essence in the most appropriate funeral service possible.

For the funerals of babies and children up to 16 years:

We do not make any charges to transfer the child into our care, to provide Private Chapel of Rest facilities nor to care for the child until the day of their funeral.

We will make a minimal professional service charge, a charge for the vehicle and a charge for the coffin of your choice.

In addition, there may be third party charges from the Cemetery or Crematorium.

Transport

Depending upon the age of the child it is not always appropriate to use a hearse, and it is not always appropriate to use a black hearse. We can discuss the wide variety of transport options.

Coffin

It is traditional to have a white coffin for a child but it is possible to have a bespoke design reflecting favourite things such as TV shows, colours or traditional coffins.

Memorial Stationery

We can arrange Orders of Service totally personalised to your requirements in full colour including photographs. These can provide mourners with a welcome keepsake of the day and make a lovely item for a memory box.

Dove Release & Helium Balloons

It is becoming more popular to release doves as a symbol of love and “freedom”. As an alternative, people are also choosing to release helium filled balloons. We are happy to arrange this and obtain any permissions required on your behalf.

Visiting the Chapel of Rest

We will do everything we can to make sure that your visit to the Chapel of Rest is as peaceful and as beneficial to you and your family as possible.  If you would like us to take hand/footprints or keep a lock of hair for a Memory Box, please ask.

We understand that your child is your child however old or young they may be and that you will want to take care of them in your way as long as possible.  We encourage families to participate in the arrangements and we will ensure that you do as much as  you can and want to.  At the times that we are responsible for their care, we promise to treasure them as if they were our own.


Alternative funeral vehicles in Sutton Coldfield and Birmingham

 

Daniel Ross Funeral Directors in Sutton Coldfield pride themselves in offering families every available option to personalise the funeral.

As pictured, the VW Beetle stretch Limousine is an alternate vehicle to use in place of our traditional black Daimler Limousines.

In addition to the limousine, a VW Hearse is also available.

 

Alternative funeral vehicles we can offer

As standard, many families chose to use our black Daimler Hearse and Limousines for a traditional and prestigious funeral but at Daniel Ross Funerals we can also offer:

  • White or Black Horse Drawn Hearse
  • Rolls Royce fleet
  • White or Pink Hearse
  • Estate Cars
  • Land Rover Hearse

Do contact us here to discuss any special funeral vehicle that you would like to use.